If you’ve ever been around a group of women for an extended period of time, I am sure that you have heard about how helpless men can be. Seriously, though, I know every woman has to have thought this at least once. I am guilty of mentioning things like that from time to time, just small comments like, “I am not sure my husband even knows where the trash can is…” (which, in all fairness, I wasn’t 100% sure on it, but I digress).
It’s true that men can easily make women believe that they cannot fend for themselves. I mean, if women were not around, who would cook, manage the children, do the laundry and dishes, tidy the house, or buy the groceries? Nothing would get done – except maybe yard work or tasks that are best completed in the garage.
Recently, I had a moment where I stopped to think maybe this is the way God intended for things to be. Maybe men really do need women. Men and women were created with very different gifts and purposes, so maybe these two puzzle pieces really are supposed to fit together.
If we took this story all the way back to the beginning we would see that, sure enough, man does need woman. Our Creator knew that man needed a helper. With Adam at his side, God searched all of creation for a suitable helper and came up empty handed.
That is why he created woman: to be a helper. To stand by her man’s side and help him with the mundane tasks of everyday life. Your husband does, in fact, need your help.
So, now we can look at this new idea from two different angles. You could easily think, so, that is my purpose, huh? The reason I was created? To prepare meals and pick up used tissues that are left all over the house? Wow. Some destiny.
Or, you can go with something a little more positive. Something like, “Wow. This makes so much sense. God really did place me in my husband’s life for a reason. My man needed me. He really, truly was not complete without me. I get the chance to be his partner in every area in life. I get the opportunity to daily find new ways to bless my husband with my help.”
I don’t know about you, but option number two sounds a whole lot better, much more fulfilling.
Sure, there will be days when being someone’s helper sounds like a drag, like when the man cold hits your home, but there will also be days when your husband notices everything you do for your family and he will give you a heartfelt thank you. Hopefully, those days – though they may be few and far between – fuel your desire to continue to be the biggest blessing that God will ever give your man.
Yes, he could survive on tortillas and cans of refried beans. He could live with more clutter than you are comfortable with and he could go much too long without washing the sheets. But he doesn’t have to, because he’s got you to help him. Your husband needs you and all the beautiful gifts that you bring into your home.
I’m certainly glad that my husband needed a helper and that God chose me for such a role. I love blessing him with an inviting atmosphere at home, a variety of delicious meals, and clean underwear. I am so glad that I get to be my husband’s helper.