What makes your day a success? Getting everything checked off of your to-do list? Keeping the kids alive? Having a little time for self-care amidst the craziness of life? Before today I couldn’t really tell you what made my day successful. Sure, I would feel good on days when I got a lot done, but was that a successful day.
I’m recently rereading a book I really enjoyed and the author brought up a really great point: you cannot reach success if you haven’t defined it for yourself. This theory could play out in many areas in life, but as I was reading this morning I knew it applied directly to how I could monitor success in my day.
Up until this point I feel as though I have been wandering rather aimlessly through many days. I’ve checked a lot of boxes next to seemingly endless tasks, deep cleaned my house, added exercise into my routine, and so on. At the end of the day it all seems unimportant if my goal is something completely different.
I decided to make a list of things to help me figure out how to define my own successful day:
Seeking God’s presence. I often find that between the baby and chores and meals and chaos I forget what really matters. For me that is searching for and basking in the presence of my Creator. When I make time for this, it renews my spirit. It gives me strength to face the rest of what the day might bring. It is the most important thing, so it is at the top!
Showing His love to those around me. There are opportunities every day to love someone around me. I might find myself putting a grocery cart back for the elderly lady parked next to me at the store or paying for a friend’s meal when we go out. It may be something as simple as spending extra time with my baby who is craving attention. Regardless, I can somehow go out of my way to love someone around me. I just have to be looking for the chance to do so.
Interceding for my family. Everyone needs prayer. It’s my job to lift up my family’s needs to God. If I am not doing it, then who is? I pray for my husband, that he starts sleeping better and that he can be a light to the guys around him at work. My son receives prayers that he may continue to grow strong and healthy and that he may walk in the Lord’s favor. I pray for my sisters, my parents, my in-laws – you get the picture. These are the people God has placed in my life to be an advocate for. If you are needing a little prayer inspiration check out The Circle Maker or War Room.
Loving my husband – however he needs. My marriage is extremely important to me. I vowed to love my husband everyday for the rest of our lives. Some days that love plays out through me giving him extra time to relax in the bathtub, while other days I show my love by making his favorite meal, surprising him with a night out, or simply snuggling on the couch. I do my best to ensure that my husband can feel my love. If he goes to sleep at the end of the day without being 100% sure of my love then I failed that day.
Tending to my baby’s needs and teaching him. Some may just say, “keeping the kids alive,” and while I can understand that, I really want my impact as a mother to go deeper than that. Outside of meeting my baby’s needs – which is also very important – I hope I can teach him something new everyday. I can teach my baby a new animal noise or the word “please” in sign language. When he is older I can nurture him with everyday skills and set him up for his own success in the future. As his siblings come along, there will undoubtedly be many learning moments throughout each day. If I can recognize these moments, and use them, I will feel very successful.
These may not apply to you. Your definition of success may wildly vary from mine, but that is okay. That’s kind of the point actually. Each of us have different goals. We live very different lives. It would only make sense that a successful day at my house might be a utter failure at yours.
Sit down, think about the things that really matter in your day, and write out your own definition for success. It may just impact all of your tomorrows.
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